For days I had called BJ’s to see if their shipment for Fiji water was in. I had made two trips for naught, and a manager kindly suggested I call rather than make another wasted trip.
“They’re in,” said Meghan. “How many cases would you like me to pull for you?”
“Three would be great. You’re a darling!” I effused.
In the store, with my three cases of precious alkaline water (recommended by the Ayurvedic practitioner helping me to heal digestive issues) I asked Meghan one more favor.
“Could you please find someone to help me put the Fiji water cases into my car.”
“Sure no problem. There he is. Anthony, please help this lady get her purchases to the car.”
What a delightful surprise I received at 8:45 AM.
“Good morning Miss! And how are you on this blessed day?” he asked. His whole face smiled, even though partially covered by his light blue paper mask.
“How beautiful it is to be greeted with such positivity so early in the morning!”
“Well, it’s TGIF and as long as I am here and can work it’s a great day.”
Wow, I thought, such a precious young man he is. I want to let him know that his good energy is a gift to others.
As we walked together to my car I asked, “Anthony, how did you get to become such a positive person?”
“Well it’s just my spirit I’d say.”
“Tell me more about the influences in your life,” (I was using my newly learned coaching skills.)
“Well. I had no father and was raised by my mother. She taught my brother and me that if we work hard and always be the best person we can be things will work out.”
“Tell me your visions for your life,” I say. In our brief connection, I wanted to support this young man in fulfilling his dreams.
“My brother and I are starting small selling our own home cooked chicken. McDonald’s started small and look where they are now,” he said exuberantly. “When I get discouraged I just say to myself, RESET, RETHINK, REGATHER.”
“Wow! That’s such a positive phrase, tell me more.”
“I reset my mind on my dream, I rethink what I need to do to get there, and I regather my energy to keep moving forward.”
“Anthony what a positive mindset you have! With your vision and heart I can see you fulfilling your dream. For your help and inspiring tip, I’d love to give you a tip.”
We each left touched.
Anthony’s Tip in Action
I’m writing this blog with immediacy. Anthony’s mantra is a great way to refocus ourselves when our spirits are down. RESET, RETHINK, REGATHER.
I went home and wrote those 3 R’s on a notecard and pinned it on a drape by my writing desk to absorb into my psyche. A new tool for my mental toolbox.
Here’s a way I used Anthony’s 3 R’s a couple of days later.
Listening to a coaching video on YouTube, I learned that it’s best to differentiate a niche or specialty for the services you offer. That’s so tricky! My specialty is in helping others connect in their relationships more deeply, as I wrote about in my book, The Affirming Way of Life: See the Good, Speak the Good, Spread the Good. But as a friend pointed out, calling myself a relationship coach sounds like I’m a marital coach. Not the limitation I want. Darn! Unwanted adrenalin pumped in my stomach and my heart fluttered disturbingly. My trigger, an overwhelm response, kicked in, but….thanks to Anthony’s mantra I regathered myself.
Ok, Gail. Reset your thoughts on the big picture that you will be helping people with the wonderful coaching skills you’re learning. You can rethink your niche by doing research on the many coaching specialties there are and find what seems to be a good match with your skills and expertise.
Breathe in…breathe out.
Ahhhhh, I feel so much better. The pause to reset my attention on what mattered and what I could do, was just what I needed to regather my positive, forward moving energy.
Your Takeaways
Being mindful of our emotions creates an opportunity for us to regather our energy and focus it positively.
Having a mantra whether it be Anthony’s reset, rethink, regather or your own favorite, is a useful tool for shifting our mind frame and our emotions.
Hanging a notecard with your mind-shifting mantra where you will see it often will help you internalize it so it’s right there in your thoughts when you need it.
Isn’t it exciting to recognize we have the power to manage our thoughts and feelings!
If you enjoyed this blog, my book The Affirming Way of Life: See the Good, Speak the Good, Spread the Good, expands upon how to bring positivity to our relationships and life. It’s available at Amazon.
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